While many of us associate the festive season with joy and togetherness, it can be a difficult time for children in foster care. It’s essential to be sensitive to the emotional and psychological needs of foster children, as their past experiences may influence how they view and react to the season.
Every child is unique and will be experiencing their own individual feelings towards the festive period, whether that’s missing loved ones, getting triggered by past traumas or feeling overwhelmed from a change to their typical routine. We’ve put together a list of seven things you can do to create joyful memories whilst supporting your foster child through the festive season.
Recognize Their Past Experiences
Christmas can be an emotional time for foster children who might be separated from their birth families. If appropriate, discuss their previous holiday traditions, and where possible, incorporate these into your celebrations. This helps to create a sense of continuity and belonging.
Create a Safe Space
Festive gatherings can be overwhelming, especially for children adjusting to a new environment. If guests will be visiting, let them know in advance and ensure they have a quiet space to retreat to if they feel overstimulated or anxious. Let them rejoin the festivities at their own pace without pressure.
Involve Them in Preparations
Engaging children in festive activities like decorating, baking, or creating handmade gifts can be an excellent bonding experience. It can also help them to feel that they are truly part of the family.
Be Mindful of Alcohol Consumption
If you plan to drink during celebrations, be aware that some foster children may associate alcohol with previous negative experiences. It might be wise to keep celebrations alcohol-free or limited to ensure a safe and positive environment.
Respect Their Feelings
It’s important to remember that not all foster children will feel excited about Christmas, as past experiences may carry negative associations. If they seem withdrawn or upset, provide reassurance and avoid taking their reactions personally.
Plan Small and Thoughtful Gestures
Overwhelming foster children with gifts or large family gatherings may not always be the best approach. Instead, focus on small, thoughtful gestures and making positive memories that will last a lifetime.
Adapt to Their Needs
Flexibility is key. Be prepared to adjust plans, whether that means scaling down celebrations or taking breaks throughout the day. A walk or quiet moment together can provide respite from the hustle and bustle.
By approaching the festive season with empathy and understanding, you can create an inclusive, supportive environment that will help your foster child navigate this time with a sense of belonging and comfort. Remember, it’s the thought and effort behind your actions that truly matter, not the perfection of the festivities.
If you would like more advice on caring for a foster child over the festive period, or advice in general, you can reach out to our friendly team here.